Are You Creating Your Own Resistance In Life?

There is a constant that appears in all life events…..  RESISTANCE. 

Resistance from others..

Internal resistance..

Resistance from society..

Resistance from the beliefs of others that don't fall in line with your own…

Are You Afraid?

But you see, the strongest resistance you will face is that of your own fears, they can, and probably have, halted your desire to do something but you were afraid, right?

Being afraid can stem from anywhere….The worry that you can’t do it (even though you know you can because you are a warrior and are capable of literally anything!)

The fear of the new unknown situation, and, let’s face it, it will be a genuine fear, this “unknown business”, because if it wasn’t new and unknown to you, you would already be doing it, yes?! YES!

The 5 Second Rule

The wonderful Mel Robbins says “If you have a thought, you need to act on that thought within the first 5 seconds of having it, otherwise your mind will start to create ways of not doing whatever it is that you want to do” (The 5 Second Rule).

Teaching your mind to be less resistant and taking it out of “flight” mode constantly can absolutely free your life ways tremendously!

Can we talk people?? The resistance (and sometimes suppression) that comes from others who have different beliefs to your own is potentially one of the most volatile situations on the whole planet. 

Seriously!

But let me tell you this…You cannot, should not and will not change someone’s personal beliefs. Why?

Because it is their own version of reality, I say version, because their beliefs are shaped around their own personal experiences…….

You did not have those experiences yourself, and of course you can empathise with them, but you did not live through them first hand, those experiences didn’t shape your beliefs, it wasn’t you.

So what is the conclusion here and how can you learn to see resistance differently?

It's OK To Not Believe!

You don’t have to believe in the same things other people do, PERIOD!

All you need to do is just accept it, the person, the situation, in any way you find it, in the most accepting way you can.

Resistance comes when this isn’t the case! It can cause friction between individuals, a lack of understanding as to why some people believe in certain things and some people have no care for the very same situation….it is all simply down to the way a person’s life experiences have shaped their thinking; their version of reality.

So when you find yourself feeling or experiencing resistance, take this away from here and remember this one word. LEARN.

Learn what?

Learn from the person; listen to their experiences that have led them to this version of their own reality.

Learn by asking questions, communication is the key to lessening resistance.

The more you ask, the more you’ll know…The more you respect the person and their experiences, and inevitably their own version of reality, the more you will build rapport and knock down the resistance wall.

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